“My son (21) graduated from a leading university with an engineering degree and is very depressed because he cannot find employment. He sits all day emailing his resume to companies but gets no replies. He says feels guilty that he can’t get a job and pay his student loan and that life has been unfair to him. He is a loner, has no friends and his interests were his studies and achieving good results. Can you please advise me on how to cope with his depression? I feel so sad for him. He has done so well with his studies and he expected that with good results it would be easier to find employment.”
Of course life is unfair! Did you not teach him this from infancy? “Poor-babying” your son will be most unhelpful. If the young man had the required temerity to land an engineering degree, he probably has what it takes to land a good job. Huddled behind a computer is clearly not working. Perhaps face-to-face cold calling will.
Your parenting responsibilities are over. The ball, like his degree, is in his court. An attitude of self-pity is most unattractive trait even in an engineer.
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