1. A little controlling behavior (manipulation, intimidation or domination) between people is a necessary part of love;
2. Living together without being married is the same as being married, because marriage is “just a piece of paper”;
3. In a good marriage, the couple always knows where the other person is, and always knows what the other person is doing;
4. The responsibilities of marriage, and the birth of a few children, will make an irresponsible adult into a responsible one;
5. All relationship problems can be traced to problems in communication;
6. Once married, your extended family, especially in-laws, should be kept at a distance;
7. If you love someone enough they will eventually change into what you want them to be;
8. It’s worth staying in a bad marriage for the sake of the children;
9. Any partner is better than no partner at all;
10. Sex before marriage is necessary otherwise a person will feel cheated after they are married and have only had one sex partner;
11. Men need sex more than women need sex, and it therefore “normal” for men to be unfaithful;
12. Good sex will keep a relationship from ending.
Twelve misunderstandings about marriage and intimate relationships I’ve discerned through readers’ letters after almost 6 years of writing a daily column:
6 Comments to “Twelve misunderstandings about marriage and intimate relationships I’ve discerned through readers’ letters after almost 6 years of writing a daily column:”
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Wow, thats a really great list. Thanks for that! Great blogging by the way!
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I hope that myth #8 is truly a myth! From my own very recent experience as a single mom, I’ve seen my daughter become a different, happier person. It makes me hopeful that she will thrive now. I don’t see our family as broken; rather, I see the individuals as finally healing themselves so that they can become better individuals and, therefore, better parents. Surely my daughter will benefit from that.
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I liked all but #11. I’d like to think that no one person should be expected to do something they don’t want or feel like doing such as sex, I also feel that if the love is real and strong the other should be expected to wait and not go outside the marriage.
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I feel that #11 can go either way…not just on the males part. When a husband show intamact towards his wife, she can feel neglected or unloved and be forced to look for “love” in the arms of the hot Peurto Rican pool guy, LOL!!! Shauna…go date the pool guy…
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this is an interesting list….
ill keep this in mind…
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