Telling someone to “mind your own business” may come off as rude or uncaring. Neither is my intention. As always, whatever I write I know doubly applies to me.

Getting immersed in other people’s business, while it may offer feelings of comfort and provide and sense of importance, it is a fail-proof track to burnout.

It’s a seemingly acceptably way, as it can appear caring, to avoid your own business. Minding the business of others can offer protection from facing your own responsibilities.

So what is your (my) business (the listed order here is unimportant)?

• The state of your immediate relationships
• The condition of faith and your place in a community or faith
• Your finances, your daily work, everything pertaining to house and home
• Your children’s welfare, safety, and education while they are children
• Your health, physical, emotional, and psychological – with the understanding that they are all inextricably connected
• The greater good of your immediate and broad community.

So what is none of our (my) business?

• Adult relationships where you are not one of the parties
• The manner in which other families parent – until there is neglect or laws are broken
• Organizational complexities (schools, churches, businesses) where you do not hold an official role or responsibility.

Posted on August 13, 2017 at 8:32 am in Adolescence, Blended families, Boundaries, Communication, Differentiation, Difficult Relationships, Education, Faith, Family, Family Systems Theory, Grace, High maintenance relationships, Leadership, Listening, Manipulation, Parenting/Children   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL