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August 3, 2017

In The White Water: Principles of Functioning

by Rod Smith

Presented by Bob Hunter

Focus on your own functioning: Don’t let the crisis become the axis around which your world revolves.
 
Develop a support system outside of the work system: professional helpers, family, and friends.
 
Stay focused on long-term goals.
 
Deep breathing  - Prayer  -  Meditation: (And CYCLING!!)
 
Listen to your body.
 
Watch the triangles.  

The “molecules of human relationship”

The person in the “responsibility position” ends up with the stress.
 
Work out a balance between being responsible for self and being [labeled] obstreperous.  (“Not a team player”)
 
Keep the system loose through humor.
 
It’s time to make decisions when the same question brings no new information.
 
Accept the possibility that one’s own functioning brought it on, which means that one may be able to influence one’s recuperation.
 
A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, by Edwin Friedman; p. 302

August 3, 2017

The weekend…..

by Rod Smith

With the weekend quickly dawning and one which will involve a lot of travel for me (I will be going home having spent the week teaching in Switzerland) I thought I’d invite you to the challenges I will set, in writing, for myself for the following few days. Perhaps you will embrace them, too:
 
·       I will work at being and becoming the most generous person I know.
·       Similarly, I will work at being and becoming the most forgiving person I know.
·       I will consistently reduce the amount of effort, care, and attention I need from others and thus hopefully earn a reputation for being “low-maintenance.” 
·       I will look for adventure in changes, especially those that are neither anticipated nor desired and over those with which I have neither authority nor control.
·       I will be as clear as possible about who I am and what I want so that the need for guessing and anticipation is reduced for those who interact with me.
·       I will look for opportunities to give and receive love, especially where both giving it and receiving it may be least expected.
·       I will govern myself well so that I may be proud of my self-handling and the handing of others as both pertain to my roles and responsibilities.