Presented by Bob Hunter
▪ Focus on your own functioning: Don’t let the crisis become the axis around which your world revolves.
▪ Develop a support system outside of the work system: professional helpers, family, and friends.
▪ Stay focused on long-term goals.
▪ Deep breathing - Prayer - Meditation: (And CYCLING!!)
▪ Listen to your body.
▪ Watch the triangles.
▪ The “molecules of human relationship”
▪ The person in the “responsibility position” ends up with the stress.
▪ Work out a balance between being responsible for self and being [labeled] obstreperous. (“Not a team player”)
▪ Keep the system loose through humor.
▪ It’s time to make decisions when the same question brings no new information.
▪ Accept the possibility that one’s own functioning brought it on, which means that one may be able to influence one’s recuperation.
– A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, by Edwin Friedman; p. 302
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