“I am recently divorced and had a relationship with an athlete for 4 months. He was very keen in the beginning. I had to put on the brakes as I don’t rush into matters. He was just three weeks out of a relationship himself and I could not understand why he was in such a hurry! He lives about 45 minutes away but would never visit me. I had to go to his place. Then he mistreated me, and said I had a bad attitude and was far too sensitive! Before this he called less frequently and the invitations were less frequent. I discovered he was seeing someone else. Why do men do this? I really feel used and abused!”

Four things:

1. Not all men do this. While you are willing to spend another minute with one who has already mistreated you, you will keep meeting such men.
2. The first red flags waved when he expected you to do all the driving. If it is not mutual, respectful, and equal it is not worth having.
3. Forget trying to understand him. It is no longer your business. Try to understand healthy men – study strength, not pathology.
4. Forgive yourself. You blew it. Learn and move on.

Posted on September 16, 2012 at 8:46 am in Addictions, Affairs, Anger, Attraction, Betrayal, Difficult Relationships, Divorce   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL