“My husband is a controlling, jealous, alcoholic. He has me so scared. I love my husband but I can’t stand living like this. His drinking is bad. His controlling is causing us to fight all the time. I tell him to relax but he just keeps it up. I hate to come home from work. I want out but yet I know that he can be a good man. He is a loving man when he wants to be but can change in a second. Can someone help me?” (Edited)
You can help you. If you have had the courage to negotiate the past years with a difficult and ill-mannered man, I know you possess the tenacity to build yourself a great future.
While you compromise yourself to live with a man who is occasionally good and sometimes loving he will control every day of what is left of your life.
Here’s a five-step formula:
1. Find your inner resolve to stay out of control.
2. Join Al-Anon who will help and encourage you.
3. Gather around you a small group of supportive women (this may take months).
4. Hatch a plan among you – a plan for you, not for him.
5. Take yourself by surprise and move out and move on.
