My husband has me so scared…….

by Rod Smith

“My husband is a controlling, jealous, alcoholic. He has me so scared. I love my husband but I can’t stand living like this. His drinking is bad. His controlling is causing us to fight all the time. I tell him to relax but he just keeps it up. I hate to come home from work. I want out but yet I know that he can be a good man. He is a loving man when he wants to be but can change in a second. Can someone help me?” (Edited)

You can help you. If you have had the courage to negotiate the past years with a difficult and ill-mannered man, I know you possess the tenacity to build yourself a great future.

While you compromise yourself to live with a man who is occasionally good and sometimes loving he will control every day of what is left of your life.

Here’s a five-step formula:

1. Find your inner resolve to stay out of control.

2. Join Al-Anon who will help and encourage you.

3. Gather around you a small group of supportive women (this may take months).

4. Hatch a plan among you – a plan for you, not for him.

5. Take yourself by surprise and move out and move on.

One Comment to “My husband has me so scared…….”

  1. This is great advice. You are the CEO of you. If you don’t make your own choices someone else will do it for you (your husband) and certainly suit himself. The minute you resolve to take back your life you will feel more in control. That control (of yourself) will snowball into greater confidence and resolve.

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