Avoid

Gossip, rumor, and those who spread it

Disciplining, correcting others when I am annoyed or angry

Passing on hearsay as if it were fact

Following a compliment with a (subtle) insult

Carrying a hidden agenda

Embrace

Truth and praise that is sincere and accurate

Opportunities to speak up for the things about which I am passionate

Transparency, openness, and generosity

Flexibility, good humor, and opportunities to inspire others

Encounters that help everyone grow and change