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March 14, 2011

Improve the milieu wherever you are

by Rod Smith

If things are going well or going poorly, if it is at work, at home, or at play, here are a dozen Golden Principles to improve the milieu wherever you are:

1. Take responsibility only for your own actions and allow others the joy and privilege of doing the same.
2. Speak only for yourself and for your young children, and allow all others (usually your children who are twelve and above) to do the same. Of course there are exceptions – this is a broad principle.
3. Show up for yourself – express what you want, what you do not want, both with the understanding you may get neither.
4. Listen more than you talk.
5. Affirm others (help build reputations) rather than destroy others by spreading negativity.
6. Strive for agreement, harmony, and even consensus, but don’t let all future action be crippled if you are met with disagreement, disharmony, and a lack of consensus. I am all for negotiation, but there are times when the search for agreement or harmony or consensus is a form of sabotage. Sometimes, it is not. Wisdom is knowing the difference.
7. Hold empathy as a hope worthy of pursuit, but embrace challenge and adventure as absolute necessities. There are enough boring people in the world, don’t be one of them.
8. Define yourself, not others. Think only for yourself – I did not say think only “of” yourself.
9. Avoid gossip and those who gossip.
10. Do what is right even when it is not popular.
11. Pray, even if you don’t believe in God – the act alone is good for you.
12. Forgive.