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October 13, 2010

I don’t want them making my mistake…..

by Rod Smith

“My son and his wife have only been married a year and they are already are having some issues. They have asked me not to tell anyone even though I know some people who can really help them. I think they are embarrassed and are not ready to share and thereby cut their problems in half. It took me a long time to realize I was not alone before I’d talk to people and get the help I needed – and I don’t want them to make the same mistakes I made. Please help.”

Victims will sabotage your organization

Hold back and listen

It is not unusual to have issues from day one, let alone after the first year! Most healthy, vibrant couples are seldom without some degree of conflict within their marriage. Offer your son and his wife complete cooperation.

While he is your son, in many senses his new family is a completely separate family, fully deserving of discovering and designing its own way to address life and all life offers. Garner the courage and the self-discipline to be a listening ear while learning to restrain yourself from the natural urge to fix what you feel needs fixing.