His daughter is hostile…

by Rod Smith

“I am in a relationship with a man who has two children. His younger daughter is making my life hell. She lies to her mother about how I treat her and refuses to speak to me. She is hostile and rude and I am often too uncomfortable to attend family events. She has recently started to not visit her father. I have tried time and time again to get her to like me but nothing has worked. I feel like it is going to come down to her or me. He says he will not allow her to drive me away. How can I stay knowing that she will stop seeing her father if I am around?”

Spend no time or effort trying to get her to like you. Don’t bargain, appease, or allow her to determine your whereabouts. “De-triangle” by openly addressing her accusations. I’d suggest a face-to-face meeting with the mother and child (without dad) would be a good idea. This sabotage must be resisted or she will become a bitter, life-long manipulator. Refusing to visit her father is a ploy. Don’t fall for it. It is dad, not you, who is in the hot seat. I hope he is careful not to give the child more power then she can handle.

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