Archive for May 5th, 2009

May 5, 2009

Ronnie Mann

by Rod Smith

My childhood was filled with soccer heroes

My childhood was filled with soccer heroes

My childhood memories are enriched with Kingsmead, with Durban City and the lesser forces of Durban United and Addington Football Club. I easily recall the sights and the sounds and the excitement I knew when Durban City took to the field on Wednesday nights and I watched Bobby Chalmers, John Rugg, and Alan Varner shoot warm-up shots at the lithe and invincible George Wooten.

And, in the unusual event Durban United’s Ronnie Mann dribbled past both full backs, drew Wooten out of his goal, and sent the ball plummeting into the back of the net, the pain I felt, even this many years later, I recall as if it occurred only yesterday!

Yes, Mr. Mann, despite my stubborn allegiance to Durban City, I too climbed the fence and ran across the field for your autograph at the end of a game, even though at the time of my urgent involvement, you fielded in enemy colours. Even then, I concede, I was able to see what a superb soccer player you were – and now – in your passing and your new-found eternal rest, may you take with you the knowledge that you were a hero to many a young boy who cheered on the sidelines at Kingsmead and at other soccer stadiums all over South Africa, even if you did spend a lot of time wearing the “wrong” colors!

May 5, 2009

Nine ways to know you are growing in your relationship skills:

by Rod Smith

May you grow and grow...

May you grow and grow...

1. You are less dependent on others yet have a growing awareness of how you fit into the bigger picture of your immediate family and community.

2. You genuinely regret past errors and are vigilant not to repeat them.

3. You possess the foresight to know that moving on with your life is a necessary part of growth no matter how grievous your past mistakes may have been.

4. You want success in every area of your life but not at the cost of your integrity.

5. Within reason you resist saving, rescuing, or protecting others (even those whom you love) from the natural consequences of their own behaviors.

6. You are comfortable with your many and varied roles in life and are unafraid to play your part to the full.

7. As far as it is within your realm of influence and power, you are at peace with all people.

8. You forgive everyone, everything, all the time, even when it is not requested and when forgiveness is undeserved – and yet, despite this, you are not the proverbial doormat.

9. You know when and how to express your voice and when it is necessary to remain silent.