“I have been with my husband for 8 years although be only got married this May. I was attracted to him because of the way he was direct. I met him when I was on a very steep cliff ready to jump and he showed interest in me, which was strange because he didn’t want a relationship. I have worked tirelessly to be with him. A week after we got married I left him. He stalked me, begging me to meet. I did. He promised me the world and I fell for it. He is controlling doesn’t want me to see my family. Nothing I do is good enough, I cook, clean, mow grass, clean gutters and organize the office. We haven’t had sex in two years. I am dying inside. Why doesn’t he want me? One of the biggest things that bothers me is I sing and we have a studio in our house and I have been asking him to burn music for me and he doesn’t. I just want to be loved and respected.” (Letter shortened)
You said he “didn’t want a relationship” and nothing has changed. You want something he appears unable to offer. Figure out what YOU want. Being loved and respected begins with YOU, not with him.
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