Finding new life and love after death or divorce

by Rod Smith

Completing grief, after death or divorce, can take years, and then lead to the reawakening of new love and refreshed hope. A dirge can become a wedding song.

I’ve witnessed great love and wonderful joy at second, third weddings,and seen families embrace new members in ways they never thought possible. I’ve seen men and women, having been pulled through the ringer of a cruel divorce, or the trauma of prolonged illness and then death of a beloved spouse, learn to laugh, trust, dance, and really love again.

Life often offers multiple chances at love, and the best candidates, for second marriages, may well be those who were happily married but who lost a spouse to illness, and those who have emerged from divorce without lingering bitterness.

Yes, life is full of hope for those with the eyes to find it, and the courage to embrace it. May those who embark on new love, having emerged from the ashes of death or divorce, find joy and fulfillment in very large, overflowing doses.

11 Comments to “Finding new life and love after death or divorce”

  1. Mark Heller's avatar

    It is sometimes hard to beleive that this could be true, but these are the words that give us all hope.

  2. Yanira Carmona's avatar

    I believe that you have to move on and seek for hapiness, but it is really hard to imagine your dad get married after your mother passed away 6 months ago (they were married for 40 years). Probably it is more difficult when you learned that you have to grief for a year.
    I support the fact that he can be with another woman by i think he should wait a year for marriage.

    • Unknown's avatar

      “moving on” to sex 2 months after your wife and love of 30 years dies?!! You don’t have a problem with that? Wife was my best friend by the way. I am well acquainted with them.

  3. dee's avatar

    Throw out those old stuffy rules……When you had a
    good marriage you want to be with someone…..yes I
    waited a year to get married again….
    I think you need to think and that takes time – for some.
    Move on – use the rest of your life to the fullest..
    Dad remarries-accept this and move on……..
    Live your life and try to be happy for dad.
    Live on and be strong.

  4. Unknown's avatar

    i miss the physical of my husband

  5. Tracy's avatar

    Never give up on love. My ex husband left me after 15 years of marriage which devastated me. I never thought I would recover. Now 6 years down the line my ex and I are best friends and I have met the most incredible man. This is the happiest I have ever been and I have come to realise that some couples make better friends than a couple. My ex and I get on better now than we ever have. I am in a relationship that I never thought could bring me so much love and happiness. Just never give up on love.

  6. Why Love Fails's avatar

    As a Newbie, I am always searching online for relationship articles that can help me. Thank you

  7. testing2's avatar

    I’ll be waiting for you on the other side. I’m still waiting for the day you’re in my arms again. Kuv hlub thiab nco koj tshaj os kuv me Mary Yang es. – Tus hlub koj tshaj.

  8. Vim kuv hlub koj's avatar

    MaiLee Yang: I miss having you by my side, hearing you sweet laughter. I miss everything about you and I hope that one day we’ll cross path again. I hope you’re happy wherever you are now and with. Kuv hlub koj os. Nco koj tshaj.

  9. Miss u so much's avatar

    I can’t believe and don’t want to believe it but you’re already gone kuv me nkauj hmoob yaj tus neeg zoo es. Cas kuv yuav nco koj luaj li. Nco kuv me me thiab os Mary os Mary es…

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