Improve your levels functioning in surprisingly easy ways……..

Let your “yes” be your yes and your “no” be your no. Don’t agree to something under pressure from others or resist something under pressure from others. Own both. Similarly, let other adults make their decisions without pressure from you.

Do yourself and your family and friends a favor by removing all guesswork when it comes to relating to you. When it comes to spending time with you, be as clear as you are able about what you do and don’t want, what you will and will not do, and what you will and will not pay for. Expecting others to read your mind or anticipate your needs is foolish and it is usually the genesis of controlling behavior. It will lead to disappointment and misunderstanding. Suggest everyone you know learns to operate this way and you will be amazed at how much more refreshing being together will become.

Genuinely affirm others when you see attitudes and actions worthy of affirmation. Don’t deal out compliments for effect or to get your way or to get someone’s approval. Such manipulative tricks seldom lead to authentic and worthwhile encounters and relationships and usually pave the way to distrust.

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