Filleting is for fish not people

A backbone is one of those “use it or lose it” things. Find it, use it, love it. Some people have been filleted. This can be done swiftly, or painstakingly slowly by life, “love,” family, or even church. If you were filleted a time ago it may be hard for you to locate your backbone. But, complete filleting is possible with fish, not humans. It’s in there. You just have to want to find it and resurrect it.

You have to acknowledge its necessity and see its purpose, its role in propelling you to face yourself then the world. Then, practice.

You have to show up, stand up, and speak up, even if it is in small ways. Start with non threatening situations, where you have formerly been a pushover. Once you begin to trust your backbone you will like it and begin to use it in important situations like your intimate relationships, work, with your parents, children, or even, if you are a pastor, with your congregation.