The Mercury – Wednesday

To the boy (about 15) who was swearing at his mother – I saw you, heard you, and you retreated in embarrassment when you were aware of others and of me.

Here are a few things I wish I could tell you:

Public scenes are very unattractive no matter who is angry with whom – you may want to try to avoid them.

Everything has a greater context and a history and I am sure that neither you nor your mother is a perfect person, but swearing at your mother (at anyone actually) is not good for you. You may want to see if you can stumble on some more helpful ways to address conflicts.

Swearing at the most important woman in your life (yes, your mother) suggests you will be able to swear at any woman in your life. It’s most unmanly to be disrespectful to women.

I have been around long enough to know that in our culture (North America) some will excuse you with “at least he’s expressing himself” or “he must have a poor role model” and other such nonsense. You are responsible for what comes out your mouth (and what goes into it) and no one else.

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