All emotional health is on a continuum, some days will be better than other days.

Here’s a quick self-reflection so you can see how you are doing today.

Healthy people:

• Achieve their goals and keep strong relationships.
• Know when “I” is “I” and “we” is “we” and the difference between the two.
• Live in their own “space” and “skin” without being space invaders.
• Maintain their individuality and embrace others at the same time.
• Avoid siding with people even if it appears helpful.
• Resist telling others what they need, think, feel or should do.
• Usually say “I” rather than “you” or “we.”
• Appreciate differences in people, seeing no person as “all good” or “all bad.”
• Recognize emotional bullying (all kinds of bullying) and refuse to participate in it.
• Hold onto beliefs without being rigid or defensive.
• Can be clear-headed under pressure.
• Cope in difficult situations without falling apart.
• Know how much they need others and how much others need them.
• Keep their voices under pressure without confusing thinking and feeling.
• Spend very little time or energy trying to win the approval of others.
• Resist playing games in order to feel loved or powerful.
• Have learned that the voice of  “they” or “them” is better ignored if “they” or “them” are unidentified.