To women and girls everywhere

by Rod Smith

Run from men (and boys) who are more interested in your body than in your brain. Your appearance may be in some cases the first point of mutual attraction but if things don’t move beyond that within the first three minutes, forget it.

Bleach (borrowed from the debate) the thought that you are “half” waiting to become “whole” because of some man who will “complete” you. You’re not an incomplete jigsaw puzzle. You are a full person, partner or no partner.

• Relationships are not a game to be won or lost and flee men who treat them as such. If you (or he) treat relationships like a game of Chess, Risk, or Monopoly, you will probably end up rather lonely and bitter.

It’s not your job to train or to teach men (and boys) how to treat women. That’s what parents do. If his parents were unsuccessful, hope life itself teaches him. Don’t take it on. If you assume the role of teacher or guide and you marry, you will be signing up for an exhausting lifetime of parenting your spouse.

Enjoy your friends. The “right” man (or boy) will make you even more thrilled to be yourself than you already are. He will selflessly love your joy, encourage your freedom, and embrace everything about you. Please, settle for nothing less.

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