“My son (15) alternates in living between his father and me for a week at a time. His dad and I don’t get along we are very cooperative as parents. Our son is an alcoholic and finds it even if it is hidden. I have cleansed my home completely of every drop but my ex won’t do the same. He hides it. He’s not much of a drinker but I think he should get of it. Our son goes to AA and sometimes he’s fine then he slips. He (our son) also uses porn and smokes weed. What must I do?”
Your son does not drink because there is alcohol available at his dad’s house. He drinks because he has a disease. While your urge to get your ex-husband to emulate you is understandable I am going to suggest that you leave the management of your son to his father when they are together.
Control what you can control. Exercise authority over what pertains directly to you.
Your son’s multiple challenges are ultimately your son’s issues.
I have the hunch that this is something your ex-husband is holding out to underscore.
While I have compassion for your son – he lives in a world that will not hide its many temptations from him.
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