I am 35 and was in a relationship with a much younger woman (21). First, I remained distant, and it was casual. I had been badly burned and had trust issues. I recognized some of her warning signs. She was volatile, self-centered, and immature. She was a bit promiscuous with possible drinking problems. However, after a few months, and her continually telling me she loved me and wanted me to open up to her and I did. We would have fights usually after she had been drinking but my feelings grew stronger and I began to be jealous and possessive. We had bad fights that led to heavy pushing and shoving. Her friends don’t like me because it is all about getting drunk and crazy times. Now we have broken up and it seems like it may be for good. We didn’t speak for two weeks, then she called me and we met and had sex for hours but said we couldn’t be together. Can this ever work out?
While I am usually hopeful, this relationship seems toxic to the point of no return. This is a perfect example of how sex PREVENTS loving. The sex was selfish, and lustful, and merely cemented the fact that you probably have no healthy future together. Keep apart. Get yourself healthy, then you will attract healthy women.
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