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April 28, 2008

Husband wants to “find himself”…

by Rod Smith

“My husband is the best person I have ever known. But slowly over the course of a year and a half, he’s come to the realization that he is not in love with me anymore. He is trying to ‘do the right thing’ and hasn’t left the home but its just like we are friends now…no more lovers. I am so lonely and I feel horrible every time I think about it. I know I could have been better in our marriage. I admitted to my weaknesses and faults and genuinely saw things for the first time in a new light that made me want to change. But its been 8 months and maybe my efforts are too late. We met in high school. We grew up together and were each other’s best friends. But now in his eyes, I’m like an enemy. He needs to ‘find himself’ and he feels like he can’t do that with me.  I never thought in a million years I’d be in this situation. But I still love him and still hope and still pray.

Avoid blaming yourself.  I hope your husband begins to see his marriage as his only legitimate crucible in which he may truly “find” himself.