No matter how good or qualified your therapist — therapy will be of no help: 

If you’re seeking help with your intimate relationship but you’re living with your mind made up, bags packed, and a heart full of blame and complaints.

It’s therapy, not arm-wrestling. 

If you’re having an extramarital affair and you want to improve your relationship with your spouse so your divorce can be cordial. 

It’s therapy, not help with deception and manipulation. 

If you’re coming to change or influence a relationship you’re not directly a part of, for instance, you want to fix your son’s marriage or you want you husband to call his mom more often. 

It’s therapy, not human chess.

If you’re committed to treating your adult sons and daughters as if they’re children and wonder why they resist visiting or phoning you.

It’s therapy, not guilt-tripping. 

If you’re hoping for help to change the political views of people with whom you do not agree. 

It’s therapy, not magic.

If you want the lazy to be hardworking, the harsh to be gentle, the stingy to be generous, and the unforgiving to find mercy. 

Men and women who discover such radical transformation do so because they grow tired of their selfish, rigid, alienating and arrogant ways, and, in humility, find the courage for change. 

It’s not therapy, it’s when desperation meets the Divine.