Archive for September 24th, 2019

September 24, 2019

Have you noticed?

by Rod Smith

• You can “know” some people for years and never have a sense you have really met. They are guarded. There seems to be no gateway, no pass code, to get beyond common pleasantries.

• You can “know” some people for hours and have a sense you have known them forever. They appear open, transparent; common pleasantries are merely a welcome mat to intimate conversations.

• You meet some people and you have the impression that if you give an inch they will take a mile. There appears to be such a hunger for acceptance, for connection, that the slightest indications of welcome will lead to more than you want to handle.

• You meet some people and they have a well-developed shtick, a practiced, often aged routine that everybody gets when they meet someone for the first time. You get the sense that you are just another audience and it’s “here we go again.”

I’d suggest that in the absence of other symptoms you have met “normal.” You have met a cross section of people who can teach you to love and to accept and to understand yourself in new ways.

Listen, learn, take charge of yourself, choose to disclose, choose to remain silent.

You are always in charge of you, no matter how others relate to you.

This is part of what it means to have secure and healthy boundaries.

September 24, 2019

Beautiful people everywhere

by Rod Smith

The Mercury / Monday

Look at the beautiful people all around you. You are sharing space and life with living miracles, just as they are sharing life with you.

You are, if you are anything like 98% of the people I know, free, brave, resilient, determined, compassionate, kind, funny, and generous.

Rich, poor, young or elderly, full of young life, or suffering from long-term illness, it is my overwhelming experience that:

• Every human has eternity etched into his or her heart and bears the stamp and resemblance of a loving and compassionate God. He or she is a work of grace and an example of divine, dynamic Art.

Look closely, it is so.

• Every human wants due recognition for his or her efforts, has talents that can be used for the common good. He or she wants to make a positive difference in his or her surrounds and beyond.

Do your part to empower and get out of the way.

• Every human is a convergence of successes, failures, losses, and gains, and is facing or denying his or her struggles. He or she has un-cried tears from abandonments, unwanted events, scars from the selfishness of others, or memories often too frightening to face.

Be the ear, be the shoulder, be someone’s answer to prayer. Be part of the beauty in every manner possible.