“You are as healthy as your secrets” goes a common adage in talk therapy circles.
Our dark secrets: these are the secrets that shift us into shame-mode, haunt our memories, needle our rest at three in the morning, and bind and silence us, keep us enslaved to their dark powers. These secrets debilitate us, silence us, make us captives, make us suspicious of others, and make us edgy in the presence where exposure threatens.
Our dark secrets can drive us into parallel behaviors that mimic the events that initiated the secrets in the first place.
These are the secrets worth exposing to a professional that their powers may be broken and the holder of secrets may be set free.
Our healthy secrets (yes, there are healthy secrets): the knowledge of shared and powerful intimacy, the knowledge and the trust of mutual promises made between equal partners, the pleasures found in a revisiting exhilarating and treasured memories, empower us.
These secrets free us, amplify our strengths and, as a result, we spill health into our families and upon all whom we meet.
These are secrets amplify any goodness within us and are worthy of being hidden in our hearts for they do no damage.
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