I’ve participated in an inordinate amount of weddings as a former musician – perhaps even yours at the Oyster Box Hotel – and many, many more as an officiate at Tabernacle Presbyterian Church in Indianapolis. Helping a couple prepare for their big day has always been one of my greatest joys.
Here are a few red flags that I have observed as couples prepare for marriage:
“I can’t live without him.”
“She gave my life meaning.”
“He’s promised to stop drinking (gambling, smoking, dealing in drugs) once we are married.”
“I love him but I can’t stand his mother.”
“He’s not helping with the wedding preparations – he’s leaving it all up to me.”
“Marriage is just a piece of paper.”
“There’s a court order so he can’t see his children. But he gets all angry if I want to talk about it.”
“I can’t get him to be anywhere on time no matter how much I try.”
“I know it’s his third marriage but he says all his other wives were crazy.”
“Her ex is still one of her best friends and I am ok with that – for now.”
“Age is just a number.”
“Her mother says this is her (her mother’s) wedding,”
(All expressed – some exaggerated for impact)
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