“My partner and I split after 3 years. We have a 17-month-old we adore. He told me he didn’t love me anymore. I have moved out and I am heartbroken. Everyday I dwell on what could have been. I cry all day. I isolate myself. He has let me down with money but he comes to my home to see our son. We have sex, then leaves and that’s that. There isn’t someone else. He says he’s not ready to sleep with another woman. I have tried to do and say as much as I can to make him come home and let me fix our family. I know he is still attracted to me. I wish there was something I could do. It kills me knowing that’s it.”

While I want to understand your devastation I have to encourage you to step up and become the mother your child deserves. He or she needs adult, committed parents – and right now you both sound like high-maintenance, wayward teenagers.

I’d suggest you stop all sexual activity with this man despite his attraction to you. More sex never solves or heals a toxic relationship.

Apply your “fix our family” energy to getting child support from the father as you let him go on his merry way.