1. He/she has excessive unaccounted for mileage on the car and chunks of time and money for which he/she will not account.
2. He/she hides bills for credit cards, cell phones and bank statements.
3. He/she uses lower or different tones on his/her phone when you are around.
4. He/she is present in body alone because his/her head seems to prefer living or being elsewhere.
5. You are checking the mileage on the car, clockwatching to know where your he/she is, and counting his/her money to know where every cent goes.
6. You are rummaging through bills for credit cards, cell phones and bank statements in an effort to retrace his/her steps.
7. You are trying to listen to every conversation he/she has with anyone.
8. You are present in body alone because you spend your waking moments trying to get into his/her head to see what he/she is thinking, feeling, planning, and wishing.
9. Details for business trips (who, when, why) are obscure or hard to pin down.
10. Compliments feel like efforts to manipulate; apologies feel like warnings; looking in each other’s eyes feels very unsettling.

Posted on May 15, 2006 at 9:56 am in Affairs, Anxiety, Betrayal, Communication, Family, High maintenance relationships, Marriage, Sex education, Sex matters, Sexual abuse, Voice   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL