Posts tagged ‘behavior at work’

August 10, 2010

Guidelines for the boss

by Rod Smith

Leadership is lonely space

1. Have private conversations in private, not in shared spaces like the cafeteria or staff room. Siding up to someone, whispering, pulling another into a corner for a “confidential” moment in communal space is unsettling for colleagues. Conduct confidential conversations only in your office.

2. Don’t play favorites with those you oversee. No matter how honorable your intentions or pure your affections, singling a few persons out for special treatment will come back to bite you. You are not employed to be popular. You are employed to get the job done.

3. When problems arise among those with whom you work, go to the source. Avoid focusing on the problem or the person. Focus on finding solutions.

4. Do not talk (or write) negatively, even in jest, of your employer. When you have a grievance, conduct yourself in the exact manner you’d want someone who works under you to behave.

5. Watch out for the destructive strength that comes with so-called weakness. If unheeded the whiners, groaners, and gossipers (often they are “support staff”) will grind your work to a halt. You must stand up to serial complainers no matter “loving” and caring they appear to be.

October 20, 2007

I feel like punching someone…..

by Rod Smith

“I feel like punching someone. My co-workers don’t like me because I’m honest to them and they feel threatened that I will take their jobs. I’ve been working here for 5 months and it feels like a lifetime. I need an advice on how to handle gossiping and moody co-workers.”

While punching someone might bring you some relief and satisfaction, the rewards throwing a punch would be very short-lived. So, don’t. Most workplaces do not condone violence among employees.

Hold onto yourself even when the temptation is raging within you. Focus on your job (role, tasks, responsibilities) and offer your responsibilities your very best efforts.

Hard workers, focused employees, loyal men and women who refuse to gossip and join the usual office negative banter (bad-mouthing the job, boss, other co-workers) are often singled out by the lower function employees and become targets simply because they are diligent, and therefore show up their lower functioning counterparts.

But sometimes over-zealous employees are rejected by co-workers, not because they threaten other peoples’ jobs, but simply because their social skills are so undeveloped their behavior attracts mirthful attention.

Take some time to discern which camp you are in.