July 4, 2008
by Rod Smith
“There’s a lonely man where I work. I know he’s unhappily married. I can see it in his eyes. You are going to say I should stay away from him because I have read you for years. What if I just want to have fun? The best sex I have ever had has been with married men. What’s to stop me? I know what I want and I know how to get it.” (Paraphrased)
Deciding the man is lonely from what you see in his eyes is absurd. I’d suggest you are reading your own loneliness in his eyes. The “best sex” to which you refer has clearly been short-lived and probably been of great cost to the men and their families.
Grow up. Leave married men alone. You might even find yourself in your own long-term, committed, authentic relationship if you decide to let alone men who already are!
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June 12, 2008
by Rod Smith
“I am married and have a situation at work. A colleague, who works directly for me, is friendly with me and she keeps saying that does not want to be intimate but shows me many signs like allowing me to see the color of her underwear. She says she needs a hug and frequently and lets me put my hands in her pants in the back only. She is also married. Please help.”
As you are in a supervisory position, you carry the greater responsibility. If this ridiculously immature and hurtful behavior is exposed, she will likely cry victim. You, as the one higher up the company hierarchy, will be held responsible, even if it is behavior initiated by the woman.
Work aside, you stand to lose all you have with your wife and your children in exchange for something so shallow and meaningless.
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