Painful lunch on Memorial Day

by Rod Smith

Monday was Memorial Day, a USA public holiday to recognize men and women who have lost their lives in any of many wars. There are small-town patriotic parades and, in our part of the world, it’s when the Indianapolis 500 is held.

Memorial weekend is a family weekend marking the onset of summer. Public swimming pools open for the first time in at least 6 months and there’s a general air of relaxed, patriotic celebration.

My sons and I did not have a good Memorial Day.  

To get the family together Nate (19) and I drove the hour into Indianapolis to take my other son (23) out for lunch.

I was already in a poor mood and when “the boys” began to somewhat playfully harass each other I lashed out.

Things rapidly deteriorated. Nate buried himself in his phone and shut us out. The older son went into rescue mode, trying hard to drag his family into a good time.

I immediately felt full of parent failure, and, after a period of retreating, went into verbal attack mode.

Things settled quickly once Nate and I got home. The older son has called several times.

He’s back to his old self,

I do wish I had handled myself better on Monday at lunch.

How was your weekend?

2 Comments to “Painful lunch on Memorial Day”

  1. Sorry Rod, that sounds painful. It’s a double blow when it is an eagerly anticipated outing. I know that your boys are resilient and will not dwell on it as you might! Hugs from Durban! PS I look forward to all your posts

    • Nice to hear from you, Leigh. Yes. The boys are very resilient and more so than I. They’ve already moved on. These things tend to linger for me. I’ve noticed a trend: family holidays are tough for us given we have zero extended family in the USA.

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