High maintenance people

by Rod Smith

High maintenance people require constant attention and approval. They crave to be the center of almost every conversation and will often become symptomatic (moody, resentful, loud, threatening) when not. They review every move, thought, words and actions of others. They tend to read unintended meaning into statements, looks, sighs, and attitudes of others. They are easily hurt, quickly offended, quick to rebuke when lacking the attention they think they deserve. Threats of withdrawal or desertion become a way of life.

High maintenance people are difficult, sometimes impossible, even in relaxed circumstances. They pick fights, find fault, and personalize almost everything. They argue with others, especially with intimates, for no apparent reason. They pick fights with strangers like waiters. They often live in a world of cut-off relationships where most others are idiots.

What can you do if you are in a relationship with a high maintenance person? You can do very little that will not hurt, offend, or get a reaction, but you must make a stand. High maintenance people seldom benefit from pity, patience, or empathy. 

They will only benefit from being constantly challenged to grow up.

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