How to know your son or daughter “gets it” when it comes to his or her future:

• Blame runs for the hills. You no longer hear her blaming teachers or textbooks or peers or parents.
• She gets down to it, whatever it happens to be. She regards immediate hurdles as opportunities to grow.
• He assumes personal responsibility – for the people he chooses as friends, how he spends his leisure time, and especially how he uses money.
• She “sees” her future and plans for it – this means aligning herself with the people and institutions that can help her achieve her goals.
• He remains connected to his family but it aware that these connections can trip him up and become a problem. He therefore clearly states where he is going without apology and invites those who love him to join him on the journey.
• Her sense of ambition is neither cold nor callous but it is determined in ways that observers admire.
• He is quick to learn from errors and is open to hearing about how he could have better handled a problem – especially as it relates to dealing with people.

Posted on March 8, 2018 at 9:40 am in Boundaries, Communication, Differentiation, Education, Faith, Family, Family Systems Theory, Friendship, Leadership, Listening   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL