Archive for July, 2017

July 2, 2017

Leadership 

by Rod Smith

Friday – Independent Newspapers / Ten Marks of a Leader

1. Possesses the capacity to treasure what’s worth treasuring about the past of any church, business, school, or organization.

2. Embraces, loves the present, and is immersed in the day-to-day joy and struggle of the immediate.

3. Sees, does what is necessary to articulate and to usher in the future.

4. Possesses the capacity to listen without waiting to speak and without making premature judgments or decisions.

5. Possesses the ability to hold necessary tension within and so does not become a conduit of anxiety. 

6. Understands that self-leadership is the absolute cornerstone of all successful leadership.

7. Understands that there is a necessary loneliness that is inescapable for all effective leaders.

8. Appreciates that unresolved past issues will agitate current relationships especially when there is tension or conflict.

9. Knows that integrity is local and immediate and a lack of integrity or a compromise in values in any one relationship will compromise and impact all other relationships and slowly (or very quickly) erode credibility.

10. Treasures the understanding that leadership is a function, a role, and not a platform for power or status.

July 1, 2017

A few words about attraction

by Rod Smith
  • Attraction is only possible between people who are functioning at the same level or emotional health (or the lack of it). If you think you are way ahead of him in any manner and are helping him along, and yet you are attracted to him, you are in strong denial.
  • Attraction is far more complex than being simply about looks or dress or a pleasant and attractive demeanor. There are multitudes of people who dress well and who are very good-looking and very pleasant whom you will hardly notice. Deep calls to deep, needs call out to needs, and (un)health attracts (un)health.
  • When attraction occurs between highly functional individuals the development of a meaningful relationship may seem to elude them both for a while – simply because healthy people are not driven to find a relationship. People on the other end of the continuum will seem to fall in love in an instant with about anyone who reaches out and the new couple will feel as if they’ve known each other for years even after they have just met.
  • Healthy attractions allow for the new couple to include others; unhealthy attractions lead the new couple into isolation.