“My family wants to stay where we have always lived. I want to move for my career. My children (10, 12) have well-established friendships and my wife is a strong member of her church. The last thing I want to do is to uproot the family just for my own sake and I want it to be a family decision. Do we move to Cape Town or not? I am not asking you about the choice, I am asking you about the process of making the decision. The money is not significantly different.”
This is not a “family decision.” It is a mother-father decision. You and your wife get to make it.
Your children will establish added meaningful friendships wherever you live – and keep the friendships they already have.
Given the privilege of choices, I’d suggest you take the one offering most adventure.
Humans were designed for challenge, danger, and pioneering. There’s a lot of “leap before you look” in us all.