Reader has lost all interest in sex….. your response valued…….

by Rod Smith

“I’m in my early thirties and married for two years. I have lost all interest in sex. My wife has been trying to help but now she is angry, frustrated, and hurt. I feel more and more depressed. I love my wife and it hurts to see her cry. When she kisses me I shut down. I tell her to stop; I laugh it off, or pretend I’m busy. I am trying to figure this out and I can’t. The best conclusion is that I am very stressed. I have a lot of anxiety right now. I don’t know why but I went from being the ‘alpha male’ to avoiding confrontations. I don’t know who I am anymore. My wife has been an angel and I seem to be getting worse. I don’t want to go out of my marriage. I am being 100% honest when I say that my wife is very attractive and fit, and sexy. I am frustrated and angry with myself. I am at the end of my rope and I think so is she. I am not gay. The worst part is we want kids and just the thought of having to have sex. I am just considering going to the doctor and getting anxiety pills to help me.” (Edited)

3 Comments to “Reader has lost all interest in sex….. your response valued…….”

  1. So sorry to hear this. Stress can be difficult to handle sometimes. I sometimes visit the hospitals and discover that i need to be appreciative of life haven seen people who are physically worse off than myself due to ill health , wanting to do more with life and cannot. There are other ways you can show your wife affection apart from sex. What has worked for me in the past is that i use the do nothing rule to combat issues that stress me at the moment and concentrate on things that make me happy, for me my children, i play with them and enjoy there youthful presence. For my wife i don,t worry about how i should make love to her instead i encourage her to take the lead and put an effort to make both of us happy. Life is too short.

  2. Sex is a communication but not only an act .Men need to communicate and prepare Their spouse and initiate it .Couple need to be open and not to set up their own boundaries before sex.
    Female needs to be listened because she is very sensitiv .When she felt be loved ,it is very easy for her to love and to give every thing she has.So men need to help her how to deal with her anger , fear, anxieties ,hurt.I mean just listen to her .Then that is very important to women.

  3. Agreed: see you MD Ask for testosterone level check

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