My fiancé and I are getting married in about a year and her mother is dominating every aspect of the wedding. Because she is paying for it does it give her the right to get her way in every detail? This upsets my fiancé so much and yet she will not say anything to her about it. Please write something about this – perhaps her mother will read it and back off a little.

I applaud your attempt to triangle me, but I am going to jump out of the middle of this once I have encouraged you to see: 1. It is your wedding. 2. She is your future mother-in-law. 3. You are engaged to a woman who has a voice she might want to use.

You’d all be better served if you all started to talk directly with each other regarding how each of you sees the big day, and what role each of you has in making it happen. If you really desire your bride’s mother to have no say in the design of the wedding, pay for it yourself. A better option would be a series of prolonged, honest discussions.

Posted on February 25, 2009 at 9:48 pm in Difficult Relationships   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL