Archive for November 8th, 2006

November 8, 2006

Response to adoption column….

by Rod Smith

 

Dear Rod:

I take the liberty of addressing you as Rod because to me you are a friend I meet every weekday at breakfast. I am from Dbn and read the Mercury every morning. I too have been subjected to invasive questions such as those listed. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I have no illusions about how insensitive people can be and take it in my stride. It is when my adopted daughter, who is now 15 years old, is at the receiving end , that I get upset. My way of dealing with this is by ensuring that my daughter feels very secure and loved and is able to talk to me about her adoption any time she needs to. (She was told by us, her parents, at a very young age, that she was adopted.) We, of course did this appropriately, taking her age into consideration. She is aware that most people are unintentionally hurtful and is past making her adoption the focus of her existence. You, of course, have it different because yours is also inter-racial and an adoption is more obvious. You have my greatest respect and good wishes and you and your children will always be in my prayers.

Regards and best wishes

Faeeza