1. Have a wedding that you can afford without going into debt. Debt kills joy.
2. Regard your wedding preparations as a metaphor for how you will probably conduct life. The groom who sits back and lets a bride do all the planning and preparation is likely to sit back and expect her to do many of the important tasks the couple will face.
3. Remember getting married will not solve any but the most cosmetic of issues you face as a person and as a couple. A legal contract signed and witnessed between you will only serve to amplify any issues you already face and awaken a whole lot more. People who are unhappy single are likely to be more unhappy when married.
4. Pay the minister, priest or rabbi more than you pay a DJ or the barman. A lot of insight can be gained about a couple who expect to pay huge amounts for their wedding (expensive dress, excessive floral displays, rental of exotic cars, a flashy reception and an exotic honey-moon) who sneer with surprise, even disdain, when the pastor, rabbi or priest sets a healthy fee for his or her services.

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