Forgive expansively. Commit specific and intentional acts of kindness. Despite the cliché, there is nothing at all “random” about acts of true, authentic kindness.
Write about your life in small, honest, vignettes. Make a list of the people who have most inspired you, then send them handwritten notes of thanks. If possible, go back to the neighborhood where you grew up and visit old memories, even if they are painful, and, even if everything has changed.
Find and thank the schoolteachers, sports coaches and youth leaders who inspired you.
Get as close, over time, to at least three healthy people (around your own age and of your own gender) as they will allow. Over extended time, and without being too overbearing or pushy, try to tell them everything. In return, listen.
Also, get close to at least three people who are of the opposite sex. Healthy men and women can and do enjoy opposit-sex-relationships that are not in any manner physical or romantic. Such relationships, especially if you are married, ought not be avoided. These relationships may not necessarily include your spouse, but neither will your spouse be intentionally excluded.
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