If you’re in conflict with anyone over anything please start here before you spread the information, seethe, engage or lawyer, or are tempted to hurt yourself or others:

• What’s my role, how come I’m in this situation?
• Where, or how was I unclear, where did I make assumptions, what did I say or not say, or hear or not hear, that got me here?
• Have I said “yes” when I meant “no” or “no” when I meant “yes”.
• Who was I trying to impress that I compromised my character during this process?
• Have I told the truth as I see it in every step of the  journey?
• Did I mishear, misinterpret, anything, because it suited me and my agenda at the time?
• Is there anything for which I need to apologize, write a cheque, or uncover some of my prideful ways and replace it with appropriate humility?
• What do I now know that I did not then know, and was this “gap” an honest oversight or does it reflect a lack of due diligence on my part?
• What do I need to do so even my adversary may emerge with dignity? What essential lessons have I learned so I may do better in the future?  

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