How I know a student (of any gender) is on a helpful and meaningful track*:
- He takes full responsibility for himself.
- She tells the truth as she sees it even if it is not in her favor.
- He resists the urge to blame others when he’s in a difficult spot.
- She assesses her own behavior in response to events and difficulties rather than focuses on what others may or may not have done.
- He makes amends as far as is possible.
- She refuses to cheat.
- He thinks alone, acts alone, experiences things alone, while being a functional member of a community.
- She is polite and thankful even under stress.
- He has an eye for the underdog and offers a helping hand.
- She is learning to stand up for her beliefs and her values even if it results in a lack of popularity.
*As always, it’s a note to self, too.
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