How I know a student (of any gender) is on a helpful and meaningful track*:

• He takes full responsibility for himself.
• She tells the truth as she sees it even if it is not in her favor.
• He resists the urge to blame others when he’s in a difficult spot.
• She assesses her own behavior in response to events and difficulties rather than focuses on what others may or may not have done.
• He makes amends as far as is possible.
• She refuses to cheat.
• He thinks alone, acts alone, experiences things alone, while being a functional member of a community.
• She is polite and thankful even under stress.
• He has an eye for the underdog and offers a helping hand.
• She is learning to stand up for her beliefs and her values even if it results in a lack of popularity.

*As always, it’s a note to self, too.