“My son (23) seldom talks to me anymore. We used to be very close in his young years. He’s cut me out and it is very painful for me. He talks a little to my husband but it doesn’t seem to bother my husband too much. How do I get him to trust me again?”
Mothering ends.
Yes, you will be his mother forever but the acts of mothering him have ended – he’s apparently made that decision.
When the mother (or the father) needs to provide mothering (or fathering) more than the adult son or daughter wants or needs, there is a problem (for the parent).
Your adult son and everything about his future is in his hands.
It will be a good thing for him (and you) if he included you in his circle but he has clearly decided he needs more space than you were ready for.
This is one of the essential reasons I have encouraged parents to have a full life OUTSIDE of their babies and children from DAY ONE.
This said, I believe your son will return and include you in his life – once he’s shown himself that he is capable of designing his life on his own.
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