Learning to use your Voice is no simple task and ought not be confused with talking.
Many people talk an awful lot, who’ve been talking almost non-stop for years, but seldom use their voices.
Some people, very sadly, for a variety of reasons, don’t even know they have one.
All talking does not mean the speaker is using his or her voice anymore than banging on a piano always produces music.
Talking without using your voice:
• Talking because silence is painful or even unbearable
• Talking without thinking
• Saying things you’ve said countless times because the tape (CD, record) runs whether you like it or not
• Talking about things that are safe and familiar – even intimate matters – to avoid and even bury material that is aching to come out.
Using your voice:
• Addressing necessary conflict and areas of disagreement with kindness and compassion even in the event it results in discomfort in relationships
• Allowing necessary silence to promote thought and the time to allow ideas to develop
• Expressing (even sometimes with necessary caution) the things that really matter even if the potential exists to upset those whom you love.
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