Dialogue first....
You get to decide if you wish to be subjected to cultural expectations at the expense of your marriage and your mental health. I’d suggest you have a conversation, and not a confrontation, with your husband over this matter. Do not suggest he resist assisting his parents, but rather finds a way, with you, to serve his parents without sacrificing the needs of his immediate family.
Dialogue first. Negotiations, second. Ultimatums, polarized positions (“us or them”) to be avoided at all cost.
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