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Are you in an abusive “arrangement” (I cannot use the word relationship when things are so toxic)…

by Rod Smith

No one can abuse you without your cooperation. Put a stop to it today. If you are in danger, do everything it takes to get yourself to safety. Leave your husband if it is necessary. It is better to be safe than dead, free than “abducted” in the name of marriage. There are things more important than marriage – like patience, honor, respect, freedom, goodness and peace. If he says he loves you but you detect none of love’s qualities and you are living in danger and fear, do whatever it takes to secure your safety. If you do not stand up to an abusive person, the abuse will accelerate and patterns establish themselves ever more firmly. Turn around begins within the heart and a good place to start is with a few simple but difficult decisions.

(I DO KNOW IT IS NOT EASY TO DO THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE USED TO LIVING IN FEAR – BUT CHANGE HAS TO BEGIN WITHIN YOU IF THE FUTURE IS TO BE BETTER THAN THE PAST).

Posted on April 30, 2006 at 9:35 pm in Adolescence, Violence   |  RSS feed |   Reply   |   Trackback URL

2 Comments to “Are you in an abusive “arrangement” (I cannot use the word relationship when things are so toxic)…”

    
  1. Bruce's avatar
    Bruce
    June 26, 2006 at 6:33 pm

    We all need to increase our level of concern, compassion and empathy for victims of family violence. I’m trying to use this song for such a purpose. It’s become nearly as popular as another song of mine that recently hit the top 30:

    Mrs. Jones, Mrs. Jones, Mrs. Jones
    words and music by Dr. BLT (c)2006
    http://www.drblt.com/music/MRSJones.
    mp3

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  2. harmonious1's avatar
    harmonious1
    September 20, 2006 at 11:23 am

    I’m about to turn 50, and I’ve been in a harmful marriage for 16 years. I want out so badly. My spouse behaves like someone with borderline personality disorder. I am chronically ill, and can’t work. I suspect my health problems are due to the stress I’ve been dealing with. I believe I could work after a period of time on my own, but… What is the first step?

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