I have heard men and women blame the government, the economy and even newborn babies for their outbursts of anger and I have the propensity within me to think of others as responsible for any anger I might feel. I too have blamed the traffic, my children, even the neighbor’s dogs for a moment of anger I’ve tasted when things would not go my way.
The person – me, you – exhibiting anger, can attempt to shift the blame for it, but the angry person must look within before anger issues can be resolved.
While an angry man believes his anger is someone else’s responsibility he will not find relief from its tenacious hold.
Mature, thinking, sane people – surely, what we want to be – take responsibility for their emotions, anger often being the toughest to corral. They resist blaming a spouse or traffic for their feelings. They see anger – and all “destructive” accompanying emotions – as notification from deep within that something awry is waiting to be addressed.
Anger-provoking events – a spouse who is not punctual, being kept waiting at the bank, traffic) simply allow the presence of anger to be announced.
Healthy people “listen” to such emotions and try to learn from them, rather than inflicting them on others – and hurting both others and themselves.
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