Suggestions for “Never Agains”
Use another or others for undisclosed ends, the seed at the heart of maniputlation and dishonesty.
Use personal power, minimal or vast, to ends for which it is neither awarded nor intended, the essence of intimidation and arrogance.
Use guilt, punishment, exclusion, to get or keep another or others in order or under control, the height of domination and darkness.
Speak ill of absent others anf those who cannot self-defend or offer explaination, especially if the sentiments are not first expressed directly face-to-face to the subject or subjects of negative talk, the mark of cowardice.
Blame another or others for things or outcomes and deflect responsibility, be it through avoidance or complicity, an indication of authentic immaturity.
Fall for, be seduced by a “single story” — a partial truth, accepting incomplete understanding of context, ignoring the idea or possibility there may be more to learn or to understand about a circumstance — and acting upon it. This is to be uneducated and willing to remain so.
Succumb to “othering” and prejudice, to exclude others no matter who they are or what may be said or believed about them. This is the bull’s eye of entitlement and damaging, alienating pride, and even more prideful and damaging if perpetuated in the name of faith or of God.
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