Please, dismiss the idea of resilience and toughness as a man with a ball scoring an unforgettable try – although indeed he may be both resilient and tough.
Some of the toughest people I know are slight women who’d confess to embodying zero athleticism. I’ve met 14-year-old girls with apparently more resilience and grit than adult and professional millionaire athletes.
Grit and toughness and courage and resilience include:
- Holding onto yourself when things around you appear to be falling apart. Self care when others appear not to care (about you). It’s getting an “above” view or objective view of what’s going on around you.
- Speaking up for yourself and others when the trend would prefer or appeal for your silence. It’s also, of course, knowing when not to speak at all. Remember, most people speak too much and listen far too little. Courage invites the necessary flip.
- Waiting for the optimum moment, the opportunity, the gap, when waiting seems counter to the action required to reduce anxiety. This is another form of “holding onto yourself.” It’s realizing that if you miss the moment it probably will return.
- Embracing the “opposition” or problem without it (the issue) knocking you off kilter or allowing it to shape your predetermined well-considered plan.
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